If We Listened gives young people the microphone - because sometimes the people we spend so much time teaching have something to teach us too. They have opinions, experiences, questions and wisdom worth hearing.
In this conversation, we meet Ruby, a teenager living with ADHD. We're talking about what it's like to experience the world through her eyes, what she wishes adults understood, and the things people sometimes get wrong about ADHD.
This isn't about defining Ruby by a diagnosis or assuming her experience is the same as everyone else's. It's about giving her the space to share her own perspective - the challenges, the misunderstandings, the things that help, and what she wants other people to know.
Because ADHD might help explain some things about how a person thinks, feels or experiences the world. But it doesn't tell us everything about who they are.
So we're giving Ruby the microphone.
And we're going to listen.
ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects how a person’s brain manages attention, activity levels and impulses. It can influence things like concentration, organisation, emotional regulation and everyday tasks, although everyone experiences ADHD differently.
ADHD isn't simply about being distracted or having lots of energy. It can also come with strengths, including creativity, curiosity, enthusiasm and the ability to think outside the box. While some people with ADHD face challenges at school, work or in their relationships, the right understanding, strategies and support can make a real difference.
Most importantly, ADHD is just one part of a person. Understanding it helps us move beyond assumptions, recognise individual strengths and give people the support they need to thrive.
Ruby is a social teenager who loves spending time with her friends. She is creative, enjoys playing the piano and is always finding something new to make or get crafty with. She also loves bananas and rats! Ruby also has a strong desire to give back to her community and make a difference to others. She also has ADHD, which is part of her experience but doesn't define who she is. Through her creativity, friendships and community involvement, Ruby brings her own unique and beautiful perspective to the world.
Megan highly recommends Neuroadvantage: The Strengths-Based Approach to Neurodivergence by Andrew Fuller. This book explores different types of neurodivergence and offers practical tools to help us recognise individual strengths and better support neurodivergent children, with plenty of strategies to put into practice. One of Megan’s favourite parts is the focus on Gizmos & Tools - using technology, physical tools and other helpful resources to build on a child’s natural strengths.
Ruby recommends this helpful guide Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder: What You Need to Know. It’s a great starting point for anyone wanting to learn more about ADHD, including how it can affect people in different ways, common signs and symptoms, and the support and treatments available. Whether you’re someone with ADHD, a parent, a teacher or simply someone wanting to understand it better, this guide can help build understanding and challenge some of the misconceptions surrounding ADHD.
Ruby recommends following Olivia Lutfallah on YouTube for more content about ADHD and neurodivergence. Following people who share their own experiences can be a great way to learn, feel understood and discover different perspectives on what it’s like to live with ADHD. If you’re looking to learn more, whether for yourself or to better understand someone in your life, Olivia’s channel is worth checking out.